Holidays can feel daunting for anyone, but for those with neurological differences, the challenges can be even more profound. This year, I celebrated a unique combination of milestones—my 50th, 51st, and 52nd birthdays—by returning to sea, not as a crew member but as a passenger. It was a journey filled with excitement, discomfort, and moments of deep self-discovery.
Leaving My Comfort Zone
As someone who thrives on routine and familiarity, stepping away from my home, my husband, and the workaholic lifestyle I’ve built felt like a monumental challenge. Even with the comforting presence of a trusted friend, I couldn’t help but feel overwhelmed and distinctly out of place. The anticipation of emotional dysregulation weighed on me as I ventured into this uncharted territory of relaxation.
The first night, I faced an unexpected hurdle. I impulsively agreed to share a dinner table with strangers—something I would never usually do. The panic hit hard, but my friend stepped in to help me gracefully retract the decision. It was a stark reminder of how crucial it is to honour personal boundaries, especially in unfamiliar settings.
Finding Connection and Purpose
For the first five days, I avoided small talk and chose solitude, bracing myself for what I thought would be an isolating experience. But everything shifted when I met Jazz, a crew member whose vibrant energy and genuine warmth broke through my silence. Her presence reminded me of why I love connecting with people. By the end of that evening, I was eager to share memories of my own time at sea, even digging out an old photo of me in my uniform.
As I reconnected with the crew, memories of my first contract at sea came flooding back. It was a challenging time with little support or guidance, which ultimately inspired me to write and publish a book about the realities of living and working at sea. Talking with the crew, I found a shared understanding. Many expressed how much they dreaded the DJ aspect of their roles—a struggle I deeply empathised with. Their stories reignited my passion for making a difference and supporting others in navigating their own challenges.
Transforming the Idea of a Holiday
This holiday wasn’t just about escaping my daily life; it became a profound journey of self-discovery and reconnection. It reminded me that holidays don’t have to fit traditional moulds. For those of us with neurological differences or unique needs, the idea of a “perfect holiday” often looks different. It’s about creating an environment that nurtures our well-being, whether through solitude, meaningful connections, or embracing the familiar.
A Question for You
Was your last holiday everything you needed it to be? Did it leave you feeling refreshed, or were there moments where you felt out of place? Reflecting on your experiences can help you adapt your surroundings—on holiday or at home—to better align with your needs and desires.
Expanding the Holiday Narrative
I hope my story inspires you to rethink what a holiday can mean. Whether it’s a retreat into solitude, fostering new connections, or revisiting a cherished place, let’s challenge the traditional notion of holidays. Instead, let’s create experiences that support our unique journeys and cater to our well-being.
This season, consider how you can transform your holiday into a nurturing experience that truly honours your individuality. After all, every journey, whether at sea or at home, is an opportunity for growth, connection, and self-discovery.
Ready to Rethink Your Next Holiday? 🌿
Take a moment to reflect on what you truly need to feel refreshed, supported, and fulfilled. Whether it’s setting better boundaries, planning a retreat tailored to your needs, or simply exploring what brings you joy—this is your invitation to start prioritising yourself.
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